He who is in a good relationship with oneself is having good relationships with others.
There are so many types of relationship exist between two parties, i.e. lovers, friends, strangers, parents vs. children, teacher vs. student, doctor vs. patient, husband vs. wife, man vs. woman and so on. The most undefined and often neglected is the relationship between one and oneself. One is selfish, but may not aware of one’s loving and devoting relationship with oneself; one is parenting and demanding to oneself, but may oversee the parenting relationship with self, mirroring from one’s own parents.
So what is your current relationship with yourself? Could it possibly be an unconscious mirroring of any relationship you once have experienced? Is your relationship with yourself now the ideal relationship you always want? Or maybe in a relationship toward the ideal? It is important for you to see and determine your role with yourself in the relationship with yourself, as it reflects upon to the relationships you have with others.
What would be your ideal relationship with yourself? Once you have all the ideal qualities you want to have and treat yourself the way you long for in the relationship with self, it is easy to have the same qualities in the relationships with others. For example, if you are affirming, empowering, trusting and loving yourself in the relationship with self, it is highly likely you are doing the same in the relationships with others. On the contrary, if you are harsh, self-condemning, full of criticisms and self-sabotaging to yourself, likely people around you experience the same from you.
Be the first one who treats you well and gives yourself the best of your love.
Today I love myself by: (read the below aloud 3 times and listen to what you read)
I reflect and understand how I am in the relationship with myself; I define the role, set the ideal relationship with myself and pursue the ideal qualities, so I may provide myself the best support and be in a good relationship with myself.
Today’s home work:
Reflect on what is your current relationship with yourself; how do you treat yourself at the time of failures, disappointments, physically unwell or success? What is the ideal relationship you are longing for with yourself? Describe the current and ideal relationships by using 5 adjectives each, i.e. self-demanding, picky, supportive, self-motivating…etc. Once you know where you stand and where to go, actions are ready to roll.
Encouragement for myself:
(It’s your space…)